If you can’t change the circumstances, change your perspective.

It’s common that every human expects something from someone they love or the person whom they are very close. But at times we get hurt when things really go wrong and when something happens across our expectations. It’s quite common these days. We cannot make everyone satisfied. We cannot sacrifice the whole of whatever we have just because someone else kept some kind of expectations on us. It’s harder to understand this world and the critical people who live in why to carry the struggles and sufferings throughout the life? Why to get hurt day by day?
 The real solution is to sit back and think. Evaluate ourselves. What’s gone wrong in between either in relationship with people or just the way we expect others without understanding anyone or not even giving others a chance to understand you. We still blame people on the other hand we also  still blame situations and circumstances. To defend we say nothing or none are wrong but it’s only our mindset that takes everything in a wrong sense and when we get the same answer from some one we say Bullshit !.
 We have to understand  and also have to approve very strongly that we are the one who complicate the life with unnecessary thoughts.But understanding and approving by mind is always done by people where the trick lies is we have to do by HEART.
It is easy to say that  you are the only soul who can completely  control  your life, but when it comes to relationships there is always the other person.In a relationship, you cannot be the puppeteer. People have their own emotions, behaviors, actions, beliefs, scars, wounds, fears, dreams, and perspectives. They are their own person.
Every time I sit an think about the fact that I always get to Deal with Disappointing Relationships day and night and for a solution I also think its high time to  'Change/Stop My Expectations'. When the very truth that in reality it is possible strikes my head This line I read long back in one of my face book wall post comes up
“If you can’t change the circumstances, change your perspective.” 
Sometimes it feels as if you are completely in control of your life, but when it comes to relationships there is always the other person.In a relationship, you cannot be the puppeteer. People have their own emotions, behaviors, actions, beliefs, scars, wounds, fears, dreams, and perspectives. They are their own person.
How often have we  wanted a relationship to be something that it is not?Literally 24 * 7 ? How much do you expect from a person? Do they fail you each and every time?But we still don't stop the relationship.In healthy relationships there are certain expectations, like being treated well or being respected. Yet sometimes we find ourselves in relationships where things our jus not our way !. We may feel used but still hurt.
We cannot expect other people to treat us as we would treat them. We cannot assume anything or force change upon someone who clearly demonstrates he or she is stuck in his or her own way.But what happens is this..!
With eyes full of clarity, We are capable of changing for the relationships in our life by adjusting our point of view.How long can we adjust ?Endless years ? yes.In all circumstances ? No.Here you get to think when we adjust for endless time why not for circumstances ! Life will not let you feel easy in all situations . For an example ! In a situation where your comparatively trusted or say not believed by one , Or say a very dear one throws harsh words on you when your in a terrible situation ,could you feel like getting back the same way leaving aside the pain ? ! Even if you get back the same old closeness can never exist!
Expectations in hard times will only leave you alone and expectations in happy times will only make you feel bad and worsen the situation !
An life is cherished when it brings you more and more surprises ! A very cute message that I've come across till date
"When I learnt to dry my tears,I found a shoulder to cry on 
When I mastered the skill of hating Someone started loving me from the core of his heart.
And that's life Success introduces you to the world  but Failure introduces the world to you."
Expect the right thing from the right person and Enjoy this cute little life of yours !

RAIN and ME

Rain Rain go away come again another day...!!!
   All of us have been brought up telling this rhyme but I've always asked for rain to come for various stupid lame reasons on earth.Say
1)When there is a cricket match going on I pray so hard that rain comes and the match is cancelled jus because I get the TV remote to switch channels 
2)When the children in the flat play all sort of games where I'm left out cause I'm the only gal,I get so jealous that I pray to stop them from playing due to rain 
3)While going to school when I'm lazy to walk through the long drive way or if the first hour class is boring or say when I haven't completed my homework jus bcoz parents are allowed to drop their kids right inside in their vehicle and hence the traffic delays the class
4)Sometimes the government announces holiday for us to sleep happily at home
5)during the last few years at school special classes are cancelled due to rain 
6)Holy angels driveway is the best of all romantic spots on earth!Gawd the green,fresh,pleasant and feel good look makes the heavy heart feel so bloody light!
7)Walk into the back doors of canteen to buy hot samosas,springroll and cutlets though they don taste all that great :P
8)PHAA the feel of being inside the pool and suddenly rain comes
9)the college bus journey was always cherished bcoz of rain and also my bus mates including the bus driver was happy that I din get to sleep that day 
10)the lecture will never attempt to get into the ears what come may only the sound of water touching our earth could be concentrated..May be lucky to have studied in institutions where rain could always be loved and makes me feel so light at heart 
11)It was a rainy day that I attended Sastra counseling and it was a rainy day when I joined RMK
12)Music was always my companion but Rain was always my best friend be it good or bad times it was always there..Good times for me to smile with the 32 teeth standing in the balcony and talk some random stuff on earth or to enjoy food or to dance like a madpot or sleep like a lazy dog.Bad times to leave aside bloody problem on earth and look down the line to feel like the most loved idiot on earth write all that comes to mind.
13)jus to go wet while driving...jus to enjoy every min of driving all alone.
14) jus to go have PANI PURI at gangotree.

            there is soo much that rain as done to me when people leave it comes to wash away all the bad things they have done to me when we ppl feel so proud of me it comes down to celebrate and at this phase of life with all for that's been happening around me at this moment dear RAIN you make me feel better and only you can be the best friend when soul mates are far off to be reached.Loving every second of this day.Its high time all the kids out there start enjoying rain and realizing the love it brings to us  ^_^

THE GIRL FACTOR

Smile slips down the lips
Unknowingly eyes start glowing
Until which it was a moon and now a SUN
Gazing at myself for really long hours
There falls a strand of hair
Sight being disturbed
Trying to live the present
Yet carried away by the spark of the moment
Cheeks turning pink
As the strand is moved back to its place
Lips turn red and juicy
Forgetting all that had bothered so long
Enacting to be a child
Being in the arms of loved one
Head turning towards his heart
And there I find myself
With tears in eye
I look into his eyes thanking him
For that moment of my life
And give him myself
There he shows me a new world
Giving me that pride moment to feel on top of the world !!!

Love of a Gal who is Single :)

A deep breathe
A sight into the sky
The clouds hugging me tight
Memories up an down the lane
Fight to take me off ma feet
Romantic is nt the word
Kissing the rain drop
Deciding to go up the lane
Into the eyes of my love
Exchanging happiness with tounges
The step above the sky
The friction that takes me even more close
Entering the new era
Memories down the lane
Shed tears cleaning the sweat on his chest
Amazingly strong ppl who built me
Making my love to be proud
Realizing my strife was worth it
Relationship built across like a tree
The roots had a tough time finding its way down to be strong
And a little more emotional I enter
The sparkling eyes that robe me back to lane
Driving me crazy, pampering, cuddling what not...
And there nature calls me for it jus loves me the way I love it
Shows me the dream life of all wishes coming true
And there with eyes open I gaze happily
Looking forward for more an more

My love,the inner soul :)

I love yo my dear life To give it to thee like a flower so it may pleasure thee to dwell deep in its perfume butu an hour I love you my dear To sing it note by note away So to thy soul the song may tell The beauty of the desolate day I love you my dear "Sweet Heart" To cast it like a clock on thine Against the storms that sound and swell Between thy lonely heart and soul I love you my dear "Heart Throb" you frown and I'm in pain,i languish You smile-and joy defeats distress I must pour out this love ,this madness there is nothing I can long for more You have been a juicy game of brain and brawn pain and pleasure You play passionately,savor the sauce of your soul taste truth,vibrate vividly,Well up with wisdom Expand exponentially you are enough zero regrets !!! Love you Darling:*

relationship is what all that matters !!!

Couldn't find a quote to start with might be there is so much within i've been thinking of all these days.Its become tiresome and hectic to even think about myself i could rather call it frustration !don feel like connecting to ppl nt even sharing personal stuffs with close frnd. ma activities for the past one week could be this sleep,eat,attend IPT,stay idle in FB and keep thinking some old stuffs.even when ppl found me odd and questioned i couldnt find a answer!there used to be nights where i couldnt close my eyes , now i find those days better jus because i knew what i was upto! the worst state of anyone is this "not knowing what oneself is upto,if not u who else will".after all this i still havent analyzed what ma mistake is but there are few things i could like to share for u to live happy. 1)never turn to be a reserved human and also make sure ur away from such ppl and here i say reserved meaning this,who dont share things to their closed ones be it good or bad.wanna know why first reason is they are killers within,its like u love to put ur leg into a pit. 2)stay away from ppl who find problem to live it else u'll have to go land up in kilpauk.My life-my attitude should be for ur way of living and u must understand that attitude shouldn't hurt anyone if anyones attitude hurts yo stay away from them also. and for those in school remember life will always be worse than what u think.for those in coll,say a strict coll,when u cant live this life u no way have rights to live coz ur dumping ppl around u to sadness.everyone has their own way of stress for heaven sake don add up stupid things as problem to them!yeah it might seem big to yo but when grown up living almost 20yrs in this world don u have to know which is big an small. finally irritation and dumping certain problems within me has what led me to this blog.the reason for irritation is coz of the above silly things and so immature ppl around.one thing for the 20yr old kids don take advantage of any friend try to understand them ones or twice u can turn to be wrong but not al threw ur life,ull be dumped in this fast world where u shouldnt point the other for u being silly. the more we care for the ppl the more they put us down.they dont realize their mistake at any point and the situation turns out to be difficult for us jus because we feel bad for not living up to their happiness where none of them realize that. no one can understand life and no one can live it the way they want but its high time that everyone realizes that u can live only if u respect "RELATIONSHIP" once lost it can never get back take pain to build every relationship jus like a mother and a child.there is no point in jus spending time fighting and loving jus for the sake it has to be true don waste ur time and others time by any chance,its the greatest sin one could do strive hard for building the best relationship. don look for the personality even ur not perfect learn to adjust say adapt,yo find something wrong u either help them out to turn good else keep sharing ur views. deeply thought abt it relationship is the root cause for the growth of science.u must be blessed to have true ppl around u.building relationship is an art gotta learn it every minuet ur heart beats !

Missing someone !!!

Ever been attached to anyone whom you should never be ?
so many ppl enter and leave your life .
hundreds and thousands of ppl
yo have to keep the door open for them to come in
but it also means yo have to let them go

The most difficult phase of life is accepting that ppl don remain to be yours always!!! amazing cycle you hate the ones who like you and so does it happen with the ppl yo like.Never imagine them to get back,you'll end up in disappointment for sure!!!and u also have to know that u will never be missed by the one who left yo!!!
self control is all that matters when it comes to relationship,there's lots of difference between want and need , never use want in relationship it'll hurt yo badly,ppl who make use of need is always happy but all i personally feel when i look at such ppl is they don live a complete life, they really don enjoy the real love!

happiness comes when ppl around u feels proud and happy to be a part of you,but that doesn't mean yo shouldn't do what yo want "this is your life do what yo want and do what yo like",life is short and live your dream and your passion. travel often with different kind of ppl sometimes getting lost will help yo find yourself there is no point in blindly searching for the love of your life,STOP they'll come to yo when yo do things that yo love.

being lonely is fun it gives me soo much of happiness but being forgotten is the worst feeling ever.there are things that we don wanna happen but have to accept,things we don know but we have to learn and ppl whom we can't live without but have to let go. all this went to ma head but heart is and will not accept to let ppl go!if yo stop loving someone it means yo never did , and if yo cant stop loving someone it means you will never stop loving them!!!

its sure that those ppl never knew your value in their life and so they never could anymore.All yo have to do is continue to love them and respect the one who love yo.accept the pain,it comes from pure love, yo feel it only for the person whom yo love and you will give it to the person who loves yo .No one has ever loved anyone the way they wanted to be loved. when yo love someone to that extent all u end up is with the broken heart accept it for them whom else will yo do it for. continue to WAIT but jus don keep wishing for long time coz life is too short strive for what yo want and make sure yo get it :)

if life was easy nothing could have been worth it !!!!!!